The Importance of communication

If there is one thing that I have learnt that I can take away from my marriage with Mark, it's the importance of communication. I am only realising this since we have split up. When Dom and I got together, I knew this was the key to a successful, honest and trusting relationship. I said from the start, I need to know how you are feeling, good or bad, how ever upsetting hearing it would make me....and of course, vice versa.

Believe me, this ain't an easy thing to do. But if you can enforce it from the start it can only make your relationship stronger. After all, if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and bare children with, then really, they are not just your lover and companion, they are your best friend. And if you can't share everything with your best friend, then what is the point of the relationship?

The worst thing we could do is bottle things up, get angry with the other person and cause tension without the other person having a clue that there is something wrong. So I say 'TALK'!! Get it out, sooner than later, before little things escalate to bigger things.

My biggest advice would be to sort things out before you go to sleep. Never go to bed on an arguement. Neither of you will sleep and that will only make things worse. And whoever believes they are right, don't be bloody stubborn! Pride is a shit thing. No one gains. Go to the other person. Be patient and understanding and don't be offended by what you hear. It's better you get to hear it than them telling another friend. You are the best friend remember? And the best thing is....it makes you both stronger, and the making up is the best bit! And if it doesn't make things stronger, then you have to ask yourself , is this really the right person to be with.

I go now, organise my wonderful wedding!

Grand entrance for 2006

I can't believe we are half way through the month of January already and I have not put anything on my blog. Well that is all going to change. I have held back for a while with certain news because of my situation, but now realise that I was wrong to do so and want to share my excitement with those that are interested. After all, those that I feared would be upset by this have, I have recently discovered, moved on in their life and sooner than I thought!! This makes me very happy. I feel now I can breathe again and enjoy my future with a person who I love very much and who has shown me the true meaning of 'soul-mate' and for that I am truely grateful.

Please may I introduce to you a wonderful contribution to my relationship with Dom. Her name is Megan and she is due to come into this world at the beginning of June. This is the first scan taken at 14 weeks. It was one of the most remarkable moments we have ever experienced. One of many we are lucky to have shared together so far.
Pretty soon after we found out that I was pregnant, Dom proposed to me. I had viewed several antique rings on Ebay and he made the final choice, which was my absolute favourite! It was a risk to buy an italian antique ring not seen in the flesh, but when he gave it to me it was more beautiful than I could have hoped for and it fit my finger perfectly!! ~That week we had a beautiful time in Paris lazily visiting the sights, strolling in and out of cafes and unique bistros that only the french know how to do well. It was also a luxury to hear Dom speak his fluent french!
Above shows the 20 week scan we had done last Friday when we found out that everything is going really well and that we can look forward to a beautiful daughter. So far my pregnancy has been relatively good. I have had no morning sickness but tend to get tired alot. We have decided that I should stay at home and raise the child as a full time mother, rather than me going to work. I plan to work from the computer when I can, to earn some extra money, but our priority will be Megan.

For now, I am quickly organising our wedding for March. It is important to us that Megan is born with her parents having the same name. I am ready for that name change too. It is the next step to my life moving forward in the right direction. 2005 was a hell of a year for me......2006 is going to be incredible!